Where are you right now?
YOUR JOURNEY
Everyone's path with paruresis is different. Maybe you've only just found out that this has a name. Maybe you've known paruresis for years and finally want to change something. Maybe you're already training and want to take back more of your everyday life.
See where you find yourself right now and what might make sense for you at this point. You don't have to follow this path in a straight line.
ARRIVE
Understand what's happening for you.
For you if: you've only just found out this has a name, or you first want to understand what's behind it.
You don't have to face a difficult restroom situation to begin. The first step can be: understanding, making sense of it, and realizing you're not alone with it.
Your next step
STARTING TO TRAIN
Understanding is the beginning.
Change takes action.
You can know a lot about paruresis and still keep avoiding. Only when you start approaching situations differently can new experiences happen and old patterns change.
Training starts right there.
TRAIN
From insight to action,
at your pace.
For you if: you've understood that you can actively do something about paruresis and that it won't go away on its own.
You don't need other people or special places for this. Your everyday life already offers many chances to work on your shy bladder and try out new behaviors step by step.
HOW TRAINING WORKS
01
Understand difficulty
Every situation can be adjusted through individual factors so training stays challenging but doable.
02
Gather new experiences
Seek out situations, try things and stay, without turning it into a performance test.
03
Repeat
Your subconscious learns new patterns through repetition in everyday life.
You choose how you want to train
Self-guided & discreet
Work on your paruresis at your own pace, without having to show yourself to anyone or talk about it.
EASY, WITH GUIDANCE
Online course: paruresis in everyday life
For you if you want the method explained and shown to you. Videos, exercises and a clear training path you then continue on your own. No group, and no need to show yourself to others.
Coming Soon
In person & with sharing
Here you'll find formats with personal or group support, for sharing and feedback.
NOT SURE WHICH FORMAT SUITS YOU?
Let's get to know each other
in a free intro call.
FREEDOM
Living freely, even with paruresis.
What does overcoming paruresis mean, and what does a life free of paruresis look like?
Progress is rarely linear. There are easier and harder situations, good phases and tough ones. A block can come back, too, but you know how to handle it and can put it in perspective.
So overcoming paruresis doesn't mean every restroom situation has to work. What matters is how you deal with it. A block may happen without everything revolving around your shy bladder again afterward or you adjusting your behavior to it.
Freedom grows step by step as paruresis takes up less and less space in your everyday life. You plan less, avoid less and can let even difficult situations be without giving them too much weight.
WHAT CAN BECOME POSSIBLE AGAIN
Traveling without tensely planning restrooms weeks ahead.
Flying, going to events, being out with groups and feeling relaxed.
Not planning a workday around safe restrooms.
Going into unfamiliar places without your mind on the next restroom visit.
Going through a difficult situation without everything revolving around paruresis again afterward.
“Freedom doesn't mean paruresis disappears completely or that every restroom situation has to work. Freedom means paruresis makes fewer and fewer decisions and life no longer revolves around it.”
Paruresis takes up less space
“For the first time, I experienced that the downward spiral can be broken and that first successes are possible. Today I feel more confident, and paruresis affects my life much less than it used to.”
More everyday freedom
“After 30 years, I managed to pee at a urinal for the first time. I also handle situations with time pressure much more calmly today. On mountain hikes with friends, things suddenly became possible that used to seem unthinkable.”
Keeping at it gets easier
“The regular, reliable check-ins, the exchange and above all a concrete plan for my everyday life make a big difference for me. On top of that, there are always new ideas and the motivation to really keep at it.”